I recently had an acquaintance ask me how I had been able to get so many great gigs this year. She had seen a talk I did at York University on performance anxiety last year, and wondered how I made the jump from anxious and overwhelmed to being a frequent performer. She said she felt frustrated that she had so many great songs to sing, and yet, nothing was happening for her. Wow, could I relate to that! For years I wondered, ‘how did those people get those opportunities?’ ‘How come they have so many invitations and events lined up?’ I remember feeling so frustrated and discouraged. Well I’ll tell you how I finally made the jump and started being one of those people:
I started asking. I starting offering. I started being active in the music community, and that made all the difference.
This summer, I’ve been extremely honoured to play at Salute Piano and Wine Bar (http://salutepianobar.com), one of the most sophisticated spots in Toronto’s Yorkville neighbourhood. I feel like I’m living my calling when I perform, and it’s honestly exhilarating. Obviously, I’m condensing the point, but the truth is that I wouldn’t be there if I hadn’t asked. And what an opportunity I would’ve missed.
So how did I do it? I asked for it.
With Love and gratitude,